Or Happy Fathers Day as it is better known.
Spent way too much time trying to find a nice picture to accompany this blog and couldn't even find one I liked with a son.
Anyway I want to say happy father's day to all the great dads out there who are raising or have raised their children properly. Got to shout out some of the man in blogworld like Obi, Mad Bull, Don T , Scratchie, Gunner and Brother Omi who are doing their thing as fathers. Keep it up bredren! Respect! If I've forgotten anyone didn't mean too the love goes out to you too.
I think in general Father's dad is no way the big promotion that Mother's day is because well there are alot of kids, both adult and children, out there with father issues.
Fathers get the shaft for so many reasons. LOL, even the old saying Mother's baby Father's maybe keeps it real by showing you how the love is usually distributed between parents.
Now some fathers don't do much to help themselves out though. They provide the biological material but then they don't stick around to assist in the rearing of the child or they do such a bad job that its better they weren't there. Well to those guys I say come on fellows try and pull up your socks and do better. You made you bed and now you must lie in it, that is if you helped make the child, help raise it by being there not only financially but to assist in the actual rearing of the child, passing on morals and values and that sort of stuff. Especially when it comes to our sons, they could really use a good role model to steer them on the right paths from small.
Moms are great, some even super I'd suggest but it'd be a hell of a lot easier if there is a dad involved.
But on the flip side even some of the better dads still get the shaft. Why because the father's role in some cases is usually that of the tough guy, the bad cop, the disciplinarian, the parent you are afraid of. So while mom is soothing your cuts and bruises after you fell down or tried to 'small up yaself" and fit through the hole in the wire fence dad is the one telling you in no uncertain terms with a firm voice that you need to not do silly things like that. He can be the spoil sport, the kill joy, the tough hand. And so mom might become the friend the one you talk to but you still have this sense of the distance between you and your father.
Just offering that up as a reason why even when dad's there he doesn't get the same love as moms. No disrespect to the moms just that I think the dads need some more love and acknowledgement. Hey I'm a man , I got to look out for my bredren!
Anyway spoke to my dad in Barbados early this morning. Ended up talking about cricket a favorite in our conversations.
Its funny growing up, I really honestly cant say I wanted to be like my father but in recent years I've seen a myriad of similarities, I know where he was coming from now and we've been through a lot of similar experiences. And I cant say I'm at all displeased with the fact that I'm becoming a lot like my dad, in fact I kind of enjoy it. Its rather cool!
Growing up I got the impression that my dad thought that I was too soft and quiet while I thought that he was too hard. Plus he had a sense of humor always telling jokes, I didn't really have one, yo me was a serious likkle yout! lol. He was always there for me though its just that many times we didn't see eye to eye. Plus I think I sort of enjoyed just taking an opposite stand to him in some weird way, not being openly rebellious just arguing the devils advocate case all the time.
Still I always appreciated the time I got to spend with my dad. It was and is still pretty amazing to see how he can just strike up random conversations with almost anyone and just get along with them so easily. De man 'ave charisma and charm, I have to work on that!
So you wont get into a whole I wish I was living physically closer to the fam thing today but yea man my pops is mad cool and I appreciate the job he did in raising me. So much love to my pops.
Anyway I'm running out of stuff to say here so once again Props to all the Pops and I hope all you guys remembered your dads today.